etiquette

Unplugged Weddings

Northwest Pearls: Baby's Breath Bouquet I read an article last year about Unplugged Weddings where the bride and groom asked the guests to keep their phones and electronics put away for the duration of the ceremony and reception.

I love the idea!

The bride and groom have paid a lot of money for photography and having people's phones taking pictures in the pictures doesn't look as nice.

I had a friend who Snapchatted the bride walking down the aisle, but the friend had drawn arrows to multiple phones (and an iPad) leaning into the aisle to take photos. I'm not sure if my friend, a photographer herself (though not at that wedding) realized the irony of that photo or not. I hope she did.

And I've also seen bloggers Snapchat parts of the wedding. We get it, you have friends and you're dressed up. You do not need to use the wedding to advance your brand.

I think it's so much more respectful to the couple for the guests to not be focused on taking pictures. While your pictures may be just for your own enjoyment, they take a little bit out of their wedding. If your phone is in their photos, it dates the photos and makes them not so timeless. And the bride and groom may look out and see you on your phone at their wedding.

I'm pretty sure that I'll ask my guests to keep their phones put away for the ceremony and most, if not all, of the reception. I wouldn't want my guests' attempts at photography in my professional photographs.

What do you think?

P.S. Yes, I'm aware of the slight irony of using a photo of my bouquet from a wedding I was in, but at that moment, the professional photographers were taking photos of the newly married couple across the lawn from us, the guests were inside the venue, and the bridal party was waiting outside for their pictures to be taken. So we were in a private enough area that having our phones out wasn't disturbing anyone.

Wedding Guest Etiquette

Northwest Pearls: Wedding Guest Etiquette

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As wedding season comes upon us, here's a few little etiquette rules that I try to follow:

RSVP. It's incredibly inconsiderate to not reply, even if you're not planning on going. If you know whether or not you're going to attend, then RSVP.

RSVP ASAP. The couple is probably stressing out about wedding stuff so waiting until the last minute to RSVP isn't very nice. Not everyone has an RSVP date on their invitations, but you should try to RSVP as soon as you can.

Buy a gift. This is a rule that I think may have gotten lost in translation for younger generations (or maybe it's just people that I know in the Northwest), but if you are invited, you should get the couple a gift.

Send the gift before the wedding.

Don't show up with an extra person or two if they haven't been invited. The couple has a head-count for the caterer and if they wanted you to bring the person you've been dating or your children, they would have specified and it would be okay. But if they haven't said "and guest" or listed your children's names, then you shouldn't bring them.

And here's a little tip:

When invited, since you're going to get them a gift, buy them something early. That way, if you're buying from the registry, you have many options to choose from.

You can check out more wedding etiquette from Emily Post.

Is there anything you'd add to the list?