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How Much to Bring to College

I've got more clothes than I need, so when I was packing for college, and for a limited space, I was freaking out over how much was too much. Then, a friend told me that I was moving there, and I would need whatever I had needed at home, while taking into account the different climate.

With that philosophy in mind, I brought lots of clothes, more than I needed, but they all fit in the room. I had decided before hand that whatever fit in my room, I would keep, and whatever just couldn't fit, I would send home with my parents. But it all fit, as far as I remember.

And since I went to college just 300 miles away from home, I came home every 6 weeks or so, and I would use that time to switch out parts of my wardrobe. I'd trade in my sandals for boots, my shorts for pants etc. But for those who go away further or don't go home as often, you should probably make sure that you've got all the clothes to last until you do go home. Or at least plan on buying what you need as the weather gets colder. I never needed a heavy duty winter jacket until I went away to college. So in October, which was early, but my mom was in town, she and I went to a NorthFace store and found a jacket for me. The people who worked there lived in that climate, and were able to give suggestions on what kind of coat I would want.

So if you're having trouble deciding on what to pack, remember, you will be living there for the next few years. And bring enough variation that you can dress up for an interview, or dress up for a dance.

Does anyone else have any suggestions on how much to bring to college?

 

Communication and Roommates

A bit of backstory: I'm talkative and outgoing and process verbally. One of my roommates was introverted and processed internally.

I would come back and chat with her about the day, what was going on etc. I started to feel like she didn't want to hear about it, so I quit talking to her about things like that. I tried to make the room a quiet place where she didn't have to be annoyed by my talking.

She took my silence as a sign of dislike for her. She thought I regretted taking her as my roommate and in turn, tried to not talk to me because she didn't think I wanted her to.

She thought I was being passive aggressive, and I thought she didn't want to talk to me. Simultaneously we made our communication problem bigger until one day, and I don't remember how, we figured out that I didn't hate her, and she didn't hate me.

As a communication major, it was interesting to see how our perceptions of our interactions were so different from our intentions. We were both trying to please the other person but it came off as being mean to the other person.

I could have talked to my roommate about our problems long before I did but I am pretty non-confrontational. I also could have reached out to our R.A. for advice on the situation.

Thankfully we figured out that neither of us hated the other. Do you have any advice for dealing with roommates?