character

Patience

Patience is something that I, and most people, need to work at. I can (usually) be patient while waiting in line at the store. I can be patient while waiting for the mail to arrive, but when it comes to big things that are potentially life changing, I have trouble just waiting around. You could compare it to a child waiting for Christmas. I feel that anxious for what I'm waiting for to come around.

But patience is a good thing, which is probably why it's so hard to have. So what are some ways to make ourselves more patient?

  • Distract yourself. I currently have too much free time, so I spend it daydreaming about what may or may not happen, and planning for the outcome I'm hoping so much to have. The busier I keep my mind, the less time I have to agonize over what may or may not happen.
  • Remind yourself that things take time. You're not the only person to have to wait for something big or important. It may be that it's a good, even a great thing, that you have to wait. Plus, patience builds character, so that's a good thing.
  • Remember what matters. While you may be excited for that semester abroad or that job offer, they're (probably) not the most important things in your life. Your relationships with friends and family are (probably) going to be more important and lasting than whatever it is you're waiting on.
  • Remember that everything will work out. Obsessing or worrying over something won't help anyone. It just makes it harder because it's on your mind. So remember that everything will work out and life will be fine.

Patience is a good character trait to have. It helps with both personal and professional life. You shouldn't snap at your co-workers, and you should be able to be excited for, but not impatient over, an upcoming vacation. It's hard though, and it's something that I'm still working on.

Do you have any other suggestions for being patient?

Makeup Does Not Define Us

I've had bad acne for years, probably around eight years, it's only now getting better. I've been reliant on makeup since it was acceptable to wear it. But last year I did a week without makeup, and when it was over, I went back to wearing makeup, a little more comfortable without it, but not really. This year one of my friends challenged me to not wear makeup for another week. She and one other friend did it with me. At first I was uncomfortable and I wasn't as social as I normally am, although I was also having a bad couple of days so that may have been part of it. The second day, Tuesday, was the worst day of all seven. I ended up in a friends' room practically in tears about how I felt I looked. Both of the friends who lived there thought I looked fine and was overreacting (which I was.) They made jokes and made me feel better. (Thanks N. and J.!)

After that the week got easier. It got to the point where I didn't need to wear makeup, but I just wanted to wear it to feel pretty again, which still isn't a good point, but it's better than where I started it. I was okay not wearing it, but I just wanted it.

Finally Monday came around and I could wear makeup again. So I did my eyeliner and mascara before putting on foundation. And then I put on foundation and looked at myself. I didn't like it. So I took off the foundation and went around for the day without it. And I felt beautiful. I felt more beautiful without foundation than with it. I went without foundation for the rest of the week and felt awesome. I didn't use foundation again until I had to get pictures taken and go shopping for a graduation dress (gotta love those harsh lights.) I do still use mascara and eyeliner, but I can go without them now if I need to.

My friends didn't treat me any differently, other than to say that they thought I looked the same, just as good, or better, without makeup. I needed the encouragement from them. (You rock A., E., L., J., N., C., and J.!)

I'm proud to say that I now feel pretty with or without makeup. It's taken me a long time to get here, I can be very insecure about my looks and especially my skin. But now that I'm here, I'm staying. Makeup does not define us as women. Our actions define us.