Multiple friends have recently told me that they were jealous of all the adventures I go on and all the fun I'm having. I had to ask them what they meant. Me? Going out and having fun? Sure, that happens sometimes, but not all that often. Usually I'm working or applying to jobs or reading alone or watching tv by myself or maybe with my bff. There's not a ton of fun or adventures in my life right now.
I figured out that their perception of my life came from my social media accounts. (Mostly Instagram.) They saw the pictures I posted and assumed that I was having a blast.
Which isn't exactly true. I have gotten to do some fun things this summer, go on hikes, be maid of honor in a dear friend's wedding, try out new things, but overall I'd saw it was an average or below-average summer. I just try to make my life look great on social media.
Which is what most people do. I see the photos of friends kayaking or at the top of a mountain and I'm jealous. But what I fail to remember is that those people also are in school or they're working and most of their life isn't like that. I just see their memorable highlights.
It's the same thing with most, if not all, blogs out there. They/we just post the highlights of our life, the pretty things, the things that inspire us. I'm not going to post an OOTD of me in yoga pants and a college t-shirt I got for free unless there's an amazing view from a hike behind me. If that's what I wore around the house or to the grocery store, it's not worth posting. It has to be noteworthy in some way for it to be internet worthy.
And most of my life isn't very noteworthy. It may seem cool on social media but honestly, yes, I've had fun this summer, but probably not as much fun as I've made it seem. (Because let's face it, you don't want to see a photo of me at my computer or me running errands.)
It makes me a little sad to see people post #goals on posts or blog posts (not mine, usually someone famous in the social media/blog world.) Yes, it would seem fabulous to wear a swimsuit everyday and just lounge by the beach, but let's face it, even the people who seem to be doing that all the time, probably aren't. Anything, even the glamorous, gets old after a while. Most of it is about selling a lifestyle, but you have to realize that even they aren't living that lifestyle. And many readers (usually they seem younger) don't realize that life isn't like that. Yes, Person A may look fabulous in the post about the beach and a fabulous new swimsuit, but what you don't see is the boring parts of life, because let's face it, everyone's life has to be somewhat mundane and boring some of the time. We just don't showcase that part because no one is interested in it.
So don't compare yourself to what someone else (famous or not) seems to be online or on social media. They may seem like #goals, but I bet if you spent a week with them, you'd see that their life isn't what you thought.
Here's what I'm frequently doing when I'm at home, feet up on the desk, at my computer video chatting, watching TV, applying for jobs, or blogging. Those feet have done cool things this summer, but they've also hung out at home quite a bit.
What do you think about a person's portrayal online and on social media?