Patience is something that I, and most people, need to work at. I can (usually) be patient while waiting in line at the store. I can be patient while waiting for the mail to arrive, but when it comes to big things that are potentially life changing, I have trouble just waiting around. You could compare it to a child waiting for Christmas. I feel that anxious for what I'm waiting for to come around.
But patience is a good thing, which is probably why it's so hard to have. So what are some ways to make ourselves more patient?
- Distract yourself. I currently have too much free time, so I spend it daydreaming about what may or may not happen, and planning for the outcome I'm hoping so much to have. The busier I keep my mind, the less time I have to agonize over what may or may not happen.
- Remind yourself that things take time. You're not the only person to have to wait for something big or important. It may be that it's a good, even a great thing, that you have to wait. Plus, patience builds character, so that's a good thing.
- Remember what matters. While you may be excited for that semester abroad or that job offer, they're (probably) not the most important things in your life. Your relationships with friends and family are (probably) going to be more important and lasting than whatever it is you're waiting on.
- Remember that everything will work out. Obsessing or worrying over something won't help anyone. It just makes it harder because it's on your mind. So remember that everything will work out and life will be fine.
Patience is a good character trait to have. It helps with both personal and professional life. You shouldn't snap at your co-workers, and you should be able to be excited for, but not impatient over, an upcoming vacation. It's hard though, and it's something that I'm still working on.
Do you have any other suggestions for being patient?